Another Way to Get Rid of Resentment Against Someone Starting Now! Part 2

Another Way to Get Rid of Resentment Against Someone… From the Inside?

We said in the first post about how to handle resentment against someone that there would be more, we speak the truth because, well, here’s the next one! It will be a slightly shorter post, but equally as important! In the last post we discussed acceptance and we won’t be going over that again. This post is all about what’s hidden behind your resentment. Another way of saying this, is why is your resentment towards someone there. There’s a few ways to figure this out that do not involve sitting on a shrinks couch (and there is NOTHING wrong with that, in fact we encourage people who need it to go!)

Sometimes, like if someone hurt you or you just found out they lied to you, it’s easy to know why you have a resentment; and thus you may have an idea of how to get rid of resentment against someone/that person. Other times, it may not be all that easy.

Someone could have wrong you ages ago and it keeps festering up, sort of like in our last post. Here’s something we don’t want to think about, but if you want to work on how to get rid of resentment against someone you need to. It may be something they have. Remember, causes of resentment can be envy, anger, and etc.

I am a huge fan of reflecting, and honestly if your not sure where your resentment is coming from, you may want to do this. You are trying to figure out how to handle resentment against someone after all. This is a big part of 12 Step programs such as Celebrate Recovery. The rest of this article is going to help you on that reflecting.

First, try and think about when these feelings began. Can you pin point a day or time you started feeling ill will or against that person? Was it an instant feeling, like one day you were just mad at them?

Was there a specific time or event that caused this or these feelings of resentment? I ask it this way because there could have been a few or several times or events that “helped” you getting to where you are now.

Now we are figuring out how to get rid of resentment against someone, but what if it was a place? There are countless individuals we have helped (we can probably count them) who didn’t have a resentment against a person, but rather a place. Sometimes it’s a group. I had a resentment against a church with how the board handled a situation!

If your resentment is with your kid or maybe partner because they don’t help around the house or with bills, your resentment may be not with them but somewhere else. For example, you could be feeling overwhelmed and it comes out as resentment. Make sense?

In the end, there is no set “way” of knowing how to get rid of resentment against someone. It is possible, and we will continue our series on resentment shortly! Again, in closing, I can not stress the benefit of reflecting and being honest with yourself. If you’re denying the idea, or saying “it can’t be that toward them” you will be less likely to get rid of resentment toward that person or place!

I may sound like a broken record, but sometimes resentment issues can be tough to figure out or realize on your own. We are here for you! We also have our course on creating Lasting Change which has been proven to increases your chances of not only changing a habit or lifestyle, but keeping that change!!